When facing an unexpected pregnancy, the experience can be emotionally overwhelming. Feeling a partner’s pressure towards a specific option can further complicate the difficulty.
Research shows that external influences, whether perceived or actual, can impact a woman’s sense of agency over her choice. According to a study by the Journal of American Physicians and Surgeons, nearly three-quarters of women surveyed felt at least somewhat influenced by others in deciding to terminate a pregnancy.
If your partner is pressuring you towards one, there are steps you can take to make your own decision confidently.
1. Assess the Situation
When facing partner pressure in an unplanned pregnancy, check in with yourself to see how you’re feeling. Some questions to ask:
- Is my partner unwilling to discuss other options besides abortion respectfully?
- Am I feeling verbally or physically threatened in any way? My safety should be the top priority.
- Does my partner have trusted support they can process this with, like friends or family? Their initial reaction may change with time and support.
- How do I feel about continuing the pregnancy even without their support?
Remember that strong reactions can often signal deeper fears or anxieties. Giving space for private reflection may provide your partner with the clarity he needs to come around.
However, if threats or abuse occur, you should take safety measures like public meetings or bringing someone with you before discussing further options.
2. Get Informed
Whether you are considering abortion, adoption, or parenting, you need to be confident in your own decision in moving forward. The first step towards making a decision is gathering more information.
Scheduling a no-cost limited ultrasound together, if possible, allows you to learn critical details like gestational age and the pregnancy’s development. It can also help identify issues like early miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy that require medical care.
This information supports informed discussions between you and your partner about abortion, adoption, or parenting options.
At Hope Pregnancy Resource Center, we offer no-cost ultrasounds, and we can also help connect you to local resources depending on your pregnancy goals.
3. Feel Empowered
We are here to help you make a confident decision with or without your partner. We offer free, confidential consultations where you can discuss your options and share any concerns in a compassionate environment.
